This week has been hard. Last week we were in the west of Scotland, 8 miles down a single track road, surrounded by water, trees and hills. Yes, it was a little rainy, yes we did get lost on walks a few times and do some unnecessary hills, but there was a sense of space.… Continue reading Post holiday struggles
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How do you know when to end coaching?
This is a really difficult one, but just like other parts of life most coaching partnerships need to end eventually. But how do you know when that is? Sometimes, it's clear in the sense that the coaching was aimed at a very particular challenge or issue and the coachee has reached their goal, made progress… Continue reading How do you know when to end coaching?
Wheel of Life Exercise
This exercise helps you to identify what you are most happy with and where you might want to make changes. The Wheel of Life exercise is a way to visualise all the different parts of your life and to balance up how you feel about each area. Start by drawing a circle-ish shape, then divide… Continue reading Wheel of Life Exercise
What will you take with you?
Almost exactly 2 years ago I had probably the only truly "good" ending I have had in my life when I left my university job after 26 years. Why was it good? I think that's a combination of having been able to plan it and be in control of much of it, leaving myself time… Continue reading What will you take with you?
Woman, Interrupted… constantly!
Self-care. Love or hate the phrase, it's pretty much impossible to avoid at the moment. Personally there are some days I don't mind it, and other days when it really makes me groan. I'm not sure why to be honest. However, I belong to a number of social media groups around being a freelancer. One… Continue reading Woman, Interrupted… constantly!
Quotes about endings and beginnings
There are lots and lots of quotes out there about endings and beginnings. Many use books and chapters as metaphors, and there are also a lot about journeys and paths. Or maybe those are the ones I find because I like books and walking (and algorithms are clever and scary)? The thing with quotes is… Continue reading Quotes about endings and beginnings
Endings…
Sometimes you know the end is coming. For example, I know that Covid bubbles permitting, I now have just 9 mornings of walking my son to primary school left. Nine mornings of seeing where the baby sparrows have gone today, nine mornings of counting cats (if there is one he wins, zero I win, two… Continue reading Endings…
Boiling academics – a post for Mental Health Awareness Week 2021
Its nearly 2 years since I left my employed role as an academic. I left because there was an opportunity to do more of the things I liked and values, and less of the things I found stressful and de-energising. Whilst being self-employed is certainly not stress-free even outside of a global pandemic, there is… Continue reading Boiling academics – a post for Mental Health Awareness Week 2021
Who am I? Identity, purpose and role.
Intro - I coach a lot of academics. Higher Education in the UK is going through some very tough times at the moment. Many institutions are looking at cuts across the board. If you are facing possibly not being able to "be an academic" either temporarily or longer term and are wondering how you can… Continue reading Who am I? Identity, purpose and role.
Using Values to Understand Behaviour and Choices
I hate shouting. I hate being shouted at and I hate it when other people are shouting at each other. It makes me feel sick and shaky. I tend to withdraw and back away both physically and emotionally. It affects the rest of my day and returns to me at night (or more likely 5am… Continue reading Using Values to Understand Behaviour and Choices